What is squirting? How to make her squirt?

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Squirting has been debated, mythologized, and made confusing for centuries. This is the straightforward version: what's actually happening in the body, what the science says, and what actually helps you get there if that's what you want.

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What exactly is squirting?

Squirting is the release of fluid from the urethra during sexual stimulation or orgasm. The amount varies wildly — a few drops for some people, a noticeable gush for others. It's not the same as vaginal lubrication, and it doesn't always coincide with orgasm.

The fluid passes through the urethra, which is why people assume it's urine. Researchers have found it contains prostate-specific antigens (PSA), produced by the Skene's glands — the same enzymes found in male ejaculate. That means squirting fluid has a distinct chemical signature from urine, even if the bladder is involved in producing it.

Myth Squirting is just peeing
Fact The fluid contains PSA from the Skene's glands. Chemically, it's not the same as urine — though it passes through the same opening.
Myth Every woman can squirt if she tries hard enough
Fact The ISSM puts the range at 10–50% of women. Many who do squirt never realize it — the fluid often goes back into the bladder.

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Can all women squirt?

Short answer: no. According to the International Society for Sexual Medicine, between 10% and 50% of women experience some form of ejaculation — with wide variation in volume and frequency. A significant number never realize it's happening, because the fluid often travels back into the bladder instead of releasing externally.

There's also a meaningful difference between squirting and female ejaculation. Squirting typically produces clear fluid in larger volumes and originates largely from the bladder. Female ejaculation produces a smaller amount of milky-white fluid directly from the Skene's glands. Both are real. They can happen together or separately.

What the research says

  • 10–50% of women experience some form of ejaculation (ISSM)
  • Squirting fluid contains PSA — chemically distinct from urine
  • The Skene's glands produce ejaculatory fluid, often called the "female prostate"
  • Squirting can happen without orgasm; orgasm can happen without squirting
  • Bladder involvement is documented — the fluid passes through the urethra regardless of origin

Is squirting the same as an orgasm?

They're two different physiological events. Squirting refers to the expulsion of fluid. Orgasm is the muscular contraction response that typically accompanies peak pleasure. They overlap often, but research covered by Healthline notes that women can squirt without reaching orgasm, and can orgasm without squirting. The experiences feel different to different people — some describe squirting as a deep physical release, others barely notice it.

How to squirt: what actually works

The G-spot is the starting point. It sits on the front wall of the vagina (the side facing the belly button), about 5–8 cm in. With the right pressure, stimulating this area can trigger the Skene's glands and create the urge to squirt. Most people describe the sensation as pressure or the feeling of needing to urinate — which is why relaxing through it matters.

1. Start with the right toy

Fingers can reach the G-spot, but a curved toy does it with less effort and more consistent pressure. Rabbit vibrators are particularly useful because they stimulate the G-spot internally while hitting the clitoris externally at the same time.

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2. Lube changes everything

Arousal fluid does a lot, but adding lube extends sensation, reduces friction, and lets you focus on pleasure rather than discomfort. If you have sensitive skin, the Heal Mary Peach 'n Love Oil is worth knowing about. It's a natural oil-based lube with botanical extracts and a warm tingling sensation. It also works as a massage oil, so it pulls double duty during foreplay.

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If you prefer a water-based option (compatible with all toys), the Pjur Med Sensitive is a clean formula with no added fragrances or harsh ingredients.

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For those who prefer silicone lube (longer-lasting, water-resistant), the Sitre Silicone Lubricant is the one to reach for. Worth knowing: silicone lubes are not compatible with silicone toys, so use it with fingers or non-silicone toys only.

3. Pressure over speed

The "come hither" motion with fingers pointing toward the belly button is the classic G-spot technique. Many people find that steady, consistent pressure works better than rhythmic thrusting. Experiment with what your body responds to. There's no single approach that works across the board.

4. Full relaxation

Physical tension blocks the squirting response. The sensation right before squirting often feels like needing to pee, and the instinct is to clench and hold back. Releasing that tension — and trusting the sensation — is what allows it to happen. A bath, a slow warmup, and lowering expectations all help.

"Squirting is a physical manifestation of pleasure that can't easily be imitated. There's fascination because it doesn't depend on penetration. You can squirt without it, without orgasm — this phenomenon is entirely about the person experiencing it." Lola Jean, sex educator and volume squirting world record holder
Lola Jean world record holder squirting
Lola Jean Sex educator and volume squirting world record holder. She trains pleasure-seekers and educators worldwide. Her perspective on squirting as a "sought-after sexual experience" speaks to how women's sexuality has historically been underdiscussed — and is now finally getting the science it deserves.

Start exploring with the right toys

G-spot vibrators, rabbit vibes, lube — everything you need to experiment comfortably and without pressure.

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Can you squirt without penetration?

Yes, though it's less common. External clitoral stimulation can trigger squirting in some people. If you want intense orgasms without penetration — and squirting is not your focus — the Chi clitoral stimulator delivers airgasm-level sensation through suction rather than vibration.

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Questions people actually ask

What does squirting feel like?

Most people describe a building pressure in the G-spot area, often followed by a warm release. The sensation right before can mimic the urge to urinate, which catches people off guard the first time. For some it's accompanied by a strong orgasm; for others it happens more quietly.

What feels better — squirting or a clitoral orgasm?

That's personal. Some people find squirting feels like a deeper, more full-body release. Others find clitoral orgasms more reliable and intense. A lot of people enjoy both, at different times, for different reasons.

Does squirting mean the sex was better?

Not necessarily. Squirting is a physiological response — it doesn't measure how good the experience felt emotionally or physically. Pleasure is subjective. Some of the best experiences don't involve squirting at all.

Can squirting help prevent UTIs?

Some researchers suggest that flushing the urethra during squirting may help clear bacteria, potentially lowering infection risk. The evidence isn't conclusive, but it's one theory that's been raised in the literature.

What if I can't squirt?

Squirting isn't something that happens for everyone, and it's not a benchmark for sexual health or satisfaction. If your body doesn't do it, that's completely normal. Focus on what actually feels good — that's the point.

Is squirting healthy and normal?

Yes. It's a natural physiological response, well-documented in medical literature. There's nothing to treat or fix — in people who squirt and in people who don't.

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